Our whole lives we spend interacting with people. I personally think that people are amazing; so different from each other in hearts and minds. These interactions are necessary for us to realize that about each other; our differences, similarities and grow to respect and show love towards each other. What I’ve been failing to do and what most people don’t realize until it’s too late is the fact that we hardly ever interact with ourselves, our own minds and our own hearts. When we start getting too busy with our lives, the few moments we get to spend by ourselves are often incidental and are moments we try to avoid.
If the lack of people constantly surrounding you, making you feel good and checking up on you pushes you to feel lonely, you’re doing something wrong. Sourcing happiness and self worth off of other people is something you should never do. All the love that is shown towards you will be of no value to you if you do not like yourself and all the hate coming your way will take center stage.
Never try to fit in. When you consciously try so hard change the way you are to be a part of a community that will never understand you, you’re putting all that energy into being someone you’re not and suppress a spectrum of thoughts, ideas and style that is so unique to you.
Don’t look for validation in the wrong people. Asking yourself to not ever seek validation is something that is very unrealistic, in my opinion. Waiting around for people who do not understand what you’re about to validate your efforts is also unrealistic. You are going to want to be recognized for your effort. And that kind of recognition coming from people who respect and understand you, will find you. It isn’t something you go looking for.
When you start looking at things for what they are and what they could be instead of looking for them, you find so much beauty within yourself and everything that surrounds you. We’re so constantly in search for people who can fix us, fix our problems for us and maybe complete us. Someone who complements you is going to recognize you. Trying to find someone to complete you isn’t the goal; that is something you should be by yourself.
What does it mean to feel free ? Free of the pressure to conform, free to love and respect yourself for who you are, free to act on your thoughts and feelings, free to express your style, free to fill your head and heart with positivity.
Feeling free is something you choose to feel. The things that help you feel free aren’t always things that are handed to you. There’s always a struggle, but the struggle to set yourself free from influences that keep you down is worth it. The struggle to go out there and claim what is yours is worth it. If the lack of confidence is what’s keeping you from doing that, then build it. The goal is to build yourself in a way that lets you do everything in life with confidence.
Waiting around for something or someone to set you free means that you’ve chosen to put your life in the hands of someone else when you have the ability to set yourself free from the head space you’ve locked yourself into.